Letting God Heal You After A Broken Marriage Engagement
1 Peter 3:7
New Living Translation
7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.
After praying about this I felt the Holy Spirit tell me that this is a topic that I needed to write on for both name her woman and abundance of peace. For a few months now I have not necessarily written articles.. I have been constantly posting Bible verses… and there is nothing wrong with that. But I believe that God told me to do this and to share a little of my story.
God Told Me To Let Him Go
Honestly… I never wanted to be married. I was not one of those girls growing up who desired or dreamed about becoming a wife or mother. That never was something that I wanted or needed. But I never really had trouble getting a “man”… but I did have toxic relationship troubles..
Constantly, in my relationships I continued to come across the same issue.. Men wanted me, my body, my beauty, and how I looked… but they did not want Jesus. Which means they want me to be one way at church and “pretend” like I am holier than thou there… but when I go home they wanted me to become someone else that satisfies there lust issue.
The Inner War
Yes… I have made bad decisions with relationships… who hasn’t …but… it gets old.. Bad decisions get very old and very tiring. Our generation is very entitled. They believe that they can hurt , be evil, and mean to people… and we’re just supposed to put up with that ? No.. That’s a fantasy not reality..
I began to have a inner war with in me.. I could feel God telling me that this engagement was not going to last… I could feel God telling me that I made a mistake.. that I just had to listen to Him and trust Him.. and He would deliver me.
I made the decision not to get married…. And this is why…
- If someone has a lust problem.. I cant fix that.. only God can. Deliverance needs to take place.
- Little comments of someone saying you’re to “old, boring, or a grandma” can lead to bigger problems with men … Sometimes it’s a small hint that they desire another (different) woman who is sexually inappropriate and more provocative than you.
- If someone makes fun of you because you’re a Christian by calling you a “nun”… well maybe they are not really for you…..
I Cannot Change The Fact That I Love God
Ending an engagement hurts… it really does. But if this is your story it is going to be ok. Sometimes when you continue to let people hurt you, make you cry yourself to sleep, lie to you, and make fun of you… they go further and further to hurt you.
Toxic relationships are not healthy. The enemy is trying to make toxic people the new normal… but I rebuke that in the Name Of Jesus ..
Toxic people have to understand that no one has to put up with them… Period.
I pray for people/women… who heart’s are broken right now because they are not getting married to who they thought would be their forever…
**This is for adults**
God gave me a promise that my husband would be a AMAZING man of God. Which means…
- He doesn’t make rude comments because I love Jesus (calling me a nun, grandma, or old woman).
- He loves me for me.. I don’t have to dress provocative for him to want me…
- He wont cheat on me (such as text other women, lie about being married, or watch pornography).
God Has A Special Plan
I know that God has a special plan for whomever I am destined, purposed, and led by Jesus to marry. I also believe that God has this same plan for you. You just have to trust Him like I did… even if it hurts.
Father, I pray that you personally intervene and heal everyone who is crying themselves to sleep over a bad relationship. I pray that you give them beauty for ashes. I pray that you wipe away every tear from their eyes. I pray God that you introduce yourself as ABBA… Our King… Our Savior.
In Jesus Name, Amen.